As an expectant mama, the combination of a nesting instinct and wanting to be the best mama ever leaves you wanting to be prepared for your new arrival. There is oodles of advice and opinions out there on what to purchase before your newborn arrives. However, many people suggest far more items than you actually need. This is a topic that I have wanted to write about for quite some time, and now five months in, I have the opportunity to share with you what I have learned. I wanted to come up with a list of items that I felt were the bare minimum newborn essentials to acquire. Don't feel as though you'll need to purchase them all yourself! Often, friends and family want to help out and aren't sure of what they should purchase. Feel free to offer suggestions and it will ease their minds.
Here's what you need for your newborn baby:
Even if you decide to bottle or breastfeed your baby before they arrive, nature often has other plans. Especially for first time mothers, try to borrow a nursing pillow. They are a more expensive item, and some mamas don't need them, whether for the comfort factor or because breast-feeding is not an option. Depending on your feeding method, you may require a breast pump, another item that you can borrow. Don't be squeamish! They're incredibly easy to sterilize and since there are so many models, as well as manual and electric, you may not like the first type that you try. My advice is to have a bottle or two that's newborn appropriate, even if you feel as though you'll be breastfeeding.
A Place to Lie Their Head
That adorable baby that you bring home from the hospital needs a place to sleep! Don't worry about the logistics - I've known several babies that have been snuggled in a dresser drawer or Rubbermaid tote and got along just fine. We were privileged to have both a cradle and a crib provided for us. The cradle had been a family heirloom on my husband's side, but our ginormous baby didn't seem very secure in it. We put together the beautiful crib that we borrowed from a friend within the first week of arriving home from the hospital. A fitted sheet or two (and a mattress pad, if you feel so inclined) will get your through in the beginning.
Whether you decide on cloth or disposable, in the beginning, you will need disposable diapers, and lots of them. Newborns go through oodles of diapers, and you will want to stock up. Diapers go on sale regularly, and there are often coupons as well. Never purchase diapers at full price! Before your baby is born, my advice is to purchase from size 1 and up. After your last ultrasound, where they usually estimate the size of your baby, you can decide whether or not you need to purchase newborn diapers. That size is the quickest outgrown, and often many babies don't even fit into them from birth.
Stock up on wipes, too! They're so handy, not only for diaper changes, but for wiping off your newborn's little hands and feet. Their teensy fingers and toes are lint magnets, and strangers also love to touch them, so using a wipe or two is a quick way to clean up.
While in the labour room, one of my nurses asked us if we had purchased a pacifier. When we told her that we hadn't, she advised us to purchase one ASAP. The hospital where I was a patient doesn't condone or supply soothers, but the labour nurse, as a mother, suggested offering it to the baby in the first few days. Some newborns don't take a soother, but if you can get them to, it's a lifesaver.
In order to leave the hospital, you will need a carseat for your newborn. Secondhand carseats are a bit controversial, as car seats have expiry dates and need to be thrown out if in an accident. Make the decision that's best for your family. Our car seat was part of a car seat and jogging stroller set that was an awesome gift from my in-laws.
Sleepers and Onesies
My little one was born in the spring, so she didn't need to layer as much as a winter baby. Babies born in chillier months often need to wear a onesie under their sleeper. Wondering what the difference is between them? Onesies are usually short-sleeved, and snap under the bum. Sleepers are long-sleeved and have legs. Purchase, borrow, or ask for as many teensy sleepers as possible. It's amazing how many a baby can go through in a day, especially in the early days.
Swaddlecloths or Swaddlebags
Many babies enjoy being swaddled. I purchased a pack of Aden & Anais swaddle blankets before Violet was born, and I'm still using them almost daily, five months later. They are such a wonderful multipurpose item: in the summer months, when it's too warm for a heavy blanket, they're a perfect weight. That brand of muslin blanket is quite expensive, but the quality is by far more superior than the non-brand name muslin blankets that I've had.
Before and after our baby girl was born, we were given so many beautiful blankets, from handmade quilts to knitted blankets to cozy fleece and furry throws and everything else in between. If there was ever an item to not ask for or purchase, it's a blanket. Seriously. You'll be up to your eyeballs in amazingly cozy blankets to snuggle your little one in.
Towels and Facecloths
We go through a pile of facecloths in our house! We use them for spit-up cloths, since they're so much smaller than the typical cloth and are easy to toss in the laundry. One great quality towel should be all you need. We received several as gifts, but my favourite is an organic cotton hooded towel that actually dries our baby off! Some of the thinner towels just seem to move the water around.
Take your time and research what brands you would like to use on your baby. I found it to be a big decision for me, as I didn't want to expose my newborn to any chemicals that were unnecessary. I chose Burt's Bees for a body wash and shampoo, and a fantastic local company, Anointment, for an all natural diaper cream. I also chose Anointment's belly butter for stretch marks, which smells amazing. As far as lotion goes, I have only used it on V a handful of times since she's been born. She had a couple of dry patches on the tops of her feet that went away after the first few weeks. Babies often have enough natural oils to stay moisturized on their own.
I had planned on using our all-natural, unscented laundry detergent on all of our baby items. I quickly came to find that smelly newborn laundry really does need the intensity of baby laundry detergent in order to remove odors. We don't use hot water when doing laundry, so perhaps if you do, natural detergent will be enough for you.
I chose to purchase a diaper bag, but often you can get away with a large purse or overnight bag. Try to choose a unisex style that's suitable for any gender of baby or parent.
We purchased an awesome changing pad for the top of our baby's dresser. More often than not, we have changed her on our bed, as it's more convenient for us.
Don't ever feel as though you have to use something that was given to you or your baby. There's pressure to your gifts, but make the decision that's right for your family. If you don't want to use a particular product on your newborn, that's your choice as their parent. Whether it's a bath product with harsh chemicals, or a wool blanket that will irritate their skin, your baby relies on you to make the decision on their behalf. End of story!
I hope this list is a help to those of you with a newborn or a baby on the way, in the immediate future or "someday". Anything else I'm forgetting? Is there a particular brand or style of newborn essential that you feel is best? Let me know what your favourite items are in the comments!
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